Non-anxious presence – Hope 103.2

Non-anxious presence

By David ReayFriday 11 Jul 2014LifeWords DevotionalsFaithReading Time: 0 minutes


Read Matthew 7:1-5

1 “Do not judge others,and you will not be judged. 2 For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.

3 “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? 4 How can you think of saying to your friend,’Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. (NLT)

We so much want to fix up the lives of others we love. They might be in trouble and so we get troubled. They get anxious and so we become anxious. And so we end up not being quite as helpful as what we intended to be! Our own significant issues can get in the way of our guiding others through their own issues.

Jesus reminds us that whenever we aim to get involved in someone else’s life,we need to pay close attention to our own life. He was concerned with our tendency to be very critical of others whilst being oblivious to our own shortcomings. But his words have wider application.

We are to seek to be a ‘non-anxious presence’ in the lives of others. If we bring all our own burdens and confused feelings into the lives of others we simply weigh them down with even more trouble. Not that we have to be perfect or ‘together’. We just have to be self-aware,recognising we have our own agenda,our own prejudices. We are to own them rather than unwittingly impose them on others.

And given that we cannot completely master these issues in our own life,we are set free from assuming we must fix up those issues in others’ lives. We can enter the lives of others as those free to help them on their journey having become conscious of where we are on our own journey.

David Reay