Men and their emotions: Part 2 - Hope 103.2

Men and their emotions: Part 2

Morning Devotions is for those curious about the Christian faith and who want to explore Christian issues that relate to their daily life.

By Chris WittsWednesday 22 Oct 2014Morning Devotions with Chris WittsUncategorizedReading Time: 0 minutes


In a school class one day,the teacher asked the kids if they knew the difference between Mother’s Day and Father’s day. A little boy raised his hand “well,  they are just about the same – except you don’t have to spend as much money for your dad’s present”.  In a quaint way,the little boy pointed to a simple fact – men and women are different as I said yesterday. God made us this way for a reason,although it can be frustrating in a marriage relationship. Like the triple 0 operator who received this frantic call from a man. He was shouting down the phone “my wife is trying to have a baby and the contractions are 2 minutes apart”. The operator thought she was being helpful “is this her first child?”   “No,you idiot,this is her husband”.  We do think differently ..Author Norman Wright says “men snore more,fight more,  change their minds more often than women do,their blood is redder,they feel pain less than women,they talk about themselves less,but worry about themselves more”. So,it’s no surprise that Dr James Dobson maintains  that the ‘seat’ of emotions in a man’s brain is wired differently than in a woman’s. Men use about 5,000 words in one day while women use 20,000,and most men learn to control their emotions,be self reliant,work hard and achieve high performance,and never quit

And this is my theme for this morning .. men and their emotions. Women tend to be more emotionally open than us guys ..or even more comfortable about emotions. But real men do have real emotional needs.. it’s just harder for most men to express them.  So what happens? We hide our emotions. That we are like superman,men of steel,always in control of our emotions. He like the thought “real men don’t cry”.”How many real men does it take to change a light bulb? None,because real men are not afraid of the dark”.  Some of us men are very emotional,and can be moved by things we see or hear. In the Bible we read of King Solomon who wrote to his wife in the Song of Songs and he said “your love is more delightful than wine”. He was not afraid to express his feelings of deep love for her. Back in 1996,Scott Beck,an amateur climber,was caught on Mount Everest,the world’s tallest mountain,when a violent storm hit him and other climbers. Eight of them died,and he lay unconscious for a time,When he woke up he was nearly blind with snow. He climbed back with severe frostbite . His nose had to be reconstructed,a new hand .. but what kept him going was the memory of his wife and children. He desperately wanted to hold them in his arms again. That strong emotional need was literally all he had to keep him going,and he is alive today .

Dr Victor Frankl wrote about his time in a concentration camp in the 2nd world war. He and other prisoners were forced one night to walk through snow and dig the frozen ground with pick axes all night. The men were weak,exhausted,and one of them said “if our wives could see us now. I hope they are better off in their camps and don’t know what’s happening to us now”. No-one said anything but Frankl wrote “each of us was thinking of his wife..I saw a bank of clouds but my mind clung to my wife’s image. I heard her answering me,saw her smile,her frank and encouraging look. I understood how a man who has nothing left may still know the bliss of his loved one”. His wife died under the Nazi hands,but he survived. One in 28 prisoners survived. He wrote of his experiences and said the love of their wives kept them going each day to face another horrifying day of pain and grief.

How true indeed that men need the love of their wives .. men have emotional needs,just as women do too. But they are different ..The worst thing we can do is to say “I don’t need emotions”. I am reminded of what Carl Jung the Swiss psychiatrist said ..There can be no transforming of darkness into light and of apathy into movement without emotion.-