Being 40 With Zero Friends? One Charity is Trying to Create Community Among Men – Hope 103.2

Being 40 With Zero Friends? One Charity is Trying to Create Community Among Men

Mr. Perfect founder Terry Cornick shares about his charity and the steps that led him to launch the best BBQ in town.

Listen: Breakfast with Sam & Duncan chat to Mr. Perfect founder Terry Cornick and his charity that aims to bring men together and feel connected

By Duncan RobinsonWednesday 18 Nov 2020Hope Breakfast with Sam & Duncan

I remember being 20, it was an EPIC year. It was the kind of time that whenever you wanted to head out you could.

If you wanted to go to the beach with me, just call, I’m free. Want to head to a music festival, I’m up. Perhaps a new indie artist was playing up in Annandale, I’m keen.

If I ever wanted to go out and do something I could just do it – instantly.

Jobs were interchangeable, friendships plentiful and, for the most part, we wanted to have relationships that looked like the set of Friends or Seinfeld. Even as a young married person I was still regularly getting out and about and enjoying life. Sure, there would be the occasional fight with the Mrs. about some chore that needed attending to, but I still had a steady supply of buddies I was hanging out with regularly.

In September I was booking a catch-up with my buddies for December and there was Doodle voting things and six potential times we could select from. I remember opening up my calendar and thinking, none of these works! I literally have seven calendars active and anywhere from  nine to 12 appointments every day.

Hoping for a spontaneous coffee… unlikely.

How about some catchup drinks… given my hours, even less likely.

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I’m 40 and the idea of sitting on my couch with anyone outside of my family and playing a casual computer game and shooting the breeze about life is a distant memory. Trying to organise casual drinks with the lads takes three months and is just too exhausting.

At some stage we hit 40 and wonder where did all the friends go?!

Terry Cornick felt the same way. It landed him with a series of mental challenges and then eventually at the family GP who gave him two choices: medication or a psychiatrist. Endearingly, his wife called him “Mr. Perfect” because he kept pretending he had it all together.

It led him to launch Mr. Perfect: Mental Health’s Mate  a grassroots “pre-crisis” charity that creates community and connection by bringing men together at BBQs in local parks across Australia, to reduce isolation and encourage better mental health.

The Breakfast show caught up with Mr. Perfect founder Terry Cornick to find out more about the charity and the steps that led him to launch the best BBQ in town. Listen in the player above.

You can find out more at mrperfect.org.au.