3 Ways Your Daughter Can Guard Her Heart – Hope 103.2

3 Ways Your Daughter Can Guard Her Heart

By Sabrina PetersThursday 31 Jan 2019

If you’ve been around church for more than two minutes you’ve probably heard someone, “Guard your heart”. Well it’s good advice! Actually, it’s great advice! The Bible tells us in Proverbs that from our heart everything else flows. So it makes sense to protect it.

To keep it soft we need to guard against offence, to keep it sweet we need to guard against bitterness, to keep it whole we need to guard against heartbreak.

Today I want to talk about “guarding your heart” in the romantic sense. I’ve walked the journey with so many young people who’ve wanted to “guard their hearts” but they just didn’t know how. So here are a three super-practical tips that are a good place to start.

1. Don’t Reveal all of Your Feelings, All of the Time

Guess what? It’s okay to have feelings. We wouldn’t be human without them. God wired us to be emotional, relational and sexual beings, but He also instructed us to rule over our emotions and desires, and not let them rule over us.

“We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ. Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity.” 2 Corinthians 10:5 (The Message)

“If there’s a guy or a girl you’re into, that’s cool, just don’t commit to the future, when you haven’t even committed to the present.”

If you’ve got a crush, instead of just letting your feelings run wild, take a step back, get some perspective and invite God and (His word) into the equation. If it’s really meant to be, you won’t need to rush it, and you won’t need to talk about it to everyone, especially the person you’re crushing on!

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I’ve seen it a hundred times: a girl will like a guy, so she’ll start hanging out with him, group dates quickly turn into one on ones. In just two weeks, they’ve talked about how much they like each other, when they’re going to get married and what they’ll name their children, but of course they’re “just friends”. (Again, there is nothing wrong with any of those things, in the right time, place and season).

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Listen up, amazing young person! Instead of rushing in and telling that person exactly how you feel about them, slow down. Things that start quickly, often end just the same.

If you’re “just friends”, act like just friends – not boyfriend and girlfriend without the relationship status.

You don’t need to be dating to get hurt. You can do that by literally telling someone how much you like them (even love them), connecting with them on a bunch of levels, and then having those expectations shattered when it doesn’t go the way you wanted it too. So if there’s a guy or a girl you’re into, that’s cool, just don’t commit to the future, when you haven’t even committed to the present.

This leads me directly to the next point…

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2. Ditch the “Try Before you Buy” Approach

You think I’m joking, but I’m for real. If you actually want to guard your heart, my goodness, guard those lips! If you let things get physical before there’s any sign of commitment, you can still end up heartbroken – because a connection severed always has repercussions.

You are worth more, you deserve more and God wants you to experience love and intimacy in all it’s fullness, not simply settled for being someones’ late night “booty call”.

I remember having a friend once (a beautiful, confident, Christian friend) who would regularly hang out with this guy she was into. Problem was all he wanted to do was make-out with her (because she was a total babe!) I remember asking her one day, “So is he your boyfriend?” She hesitated, “I really don’t know, I like him! I want to date him”.

Well he never did ask her out and, at the time, that was a very bitter pill to swallow. Thankfully, this girl is now married to an awesome young man, one who manned up, asked her out, then finally put a ring on it.

Beautiful young woman, if he’s not willing to commit to you, don’t let him get into you (in any way, shape or form).

You don’t guard your heart by pashing every random that says they like you!

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3. Stop Seeing Everyone as a Potential Partner

I know what it’s like to be 18 and on the look out for “Mr Right” (trust me, my husband radar was strong when I was that age) but, guess what? One day (maybe in the near future, maybe 10 years down the track) you’ll find the right guy (or girl) and get serious. Until then, chill out!

Again, take a breath. Stop looking at everyone as a prospective candidate, mentally ticking off your “husband or wife” list every time a new person joins your connect group / Bible study. It’s not the best move to pursue every person with “potential”. Trust me, husband hunting is exhausting. Relax, and let nature (or should I say the Holy Spirit) takes its course and involve God in the steering of the ship. He will always lead you with divine direction.

You can’t get your heart broken if you don’t give it away in the first place. Give it to God. Let Him have your undivided attention and when the time is right, love will bloom the way it was meant to.

“Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.” Song of Solomon 8:4

I’ll finish with a quote attributed to Maya Angelou: “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God, that a man has to seek Him just to find her.”

Article supplied with thanks to Sabrina Peters. About the Author: Sabrina is a new generation speaker and author and former youth pastor of 9 years. Her passion is Jesus, relationships & sexuality.

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