By Clare BruceTuesday 1 Mar 2016Hope MorningsRelationshipsReading Time: 3 minutes
Listen: Dating blogger Renee Slansky chats to Hope 103.2’s Emma Mullings
The first step to finding the right person to share your life with, is learning to be complete on your own.
That’s the number one piece of advice that Australian model, blogger and relationships coach Renee Slansky shared, in her chat with Hope 103.2’s Emma Mullings.
Renee began blogging after learning a lot of lessons the hard way in a toxic relationship. These days she’s in a happy relationship, but now uses her blog, datingdirectory.co, as a platform for sharing her hard-won advice with those who are single-and-searching.
“I wanted to create a platform which represented a voice for women and a safe haven where they could learn, and know they weren’t alone in their unique situation,” Renee said.
“I wanted to share my wisdom, what I learnt in my bad experiences, and change the dating relationship culture.”
Learn To Be Comfortable In Your Own Skin
Catwalk: Renee Slansky is an experienced model.
Renee believes that a healthy relationship requires having a “deep sense of peace” far more than finding someone with good looks, an impressive career, a great intellect or a healthy bank balance.
“From the beginning you need to be really comfortable in yourself and have a deep sense of who you are, and a sense of completion and peace,” she said. “How you see yourself is where everything else springs from.
“I don’t think that anyone should ever complete you, they should only add to you.” ~ Relationships Blogger Renee Slansky
“If you still rely on other people to fulfil your happiness or to complete you, it’s going to be a real struggle from the beginning. You need to have a real understanding of your self-worth, and feel whole without the presence of another person in your life.
“I don’t think that anyone should ever complete you, they should only add to you.”
To Find The Right Person, Start With Yourself
Renee believes that the biggest way to attract the right person for you is to become the right person.
“We focus on what we want the other person to be like, we write lists and envision them,” she said. “You do have to have a clear idea on what you want to seek, but you also need to look at yourself and consider what you need to become.”
Renee, who is a Christian and grew up in a church environment, said she had prophesies spoken over her about one day marrying, but assumed they’d happen without doing any work herself.
“I knew the promises of God but I learnt I needed to fight for those promises,” she said.
In her blogging and relationship advice, Renee covers communication, honesty and transparency, being yourself, adapting to change, and being wise in your use of social media, particularly when it comes to its affect on your relationships.
Below: Instagram post on the launch of Renee’s blogsite, datingdirectory.co.