Listen: Chris Witts presents Morning Devotions.
In Part 1, I was talking about this interesting statement, Every person is worth understanding. George Orwell back in the 1920s decided to find out what life was like in the East End of London living with people that were homeless and without jobs. And it changed his life—in fact he said it had been the greatest travel experience in his life and realised that empathy was a good thing.
The movie The Elephant Man tells the true story of Joseph (John) Merrick, born in the slums of England in 1862, and almost from birth experienced massive rejection due to his grotesque appearance—a large and severely misshapen head, loose, rough skin, and twisted arms and legs. His mother loved him dearly, but she died when he was ten. His new stepmother didn’t take to him, and at twelve, he was expected to work to contribute to the family finances. After two years working in a cigar shop he was dismissed because his deformities meant he could not keep up the required pace.
The doctor that changed his life
His father found him a job, of all things, as a door-to-door salesman. When people opened their doors and saw him people would literally scream and slam the door in his face. Those who knew who he was refused to answer their doors.. His father started beating him up, and he ended up out on the street. His uncle rescued him, but John Merrick left to live in a squalid workhouse for drunks, cripples and the mentally ill. His life there was so miserable that he offered himself to a carnival owner as a sideshow act.
Merrick was a hit. People would pay money to line up and observe him like some animal in a zoo. But the carnival finally provided him with security and a place he belonged. It was while the sideshow was in London that Merrick met Dr Frederick Treves. Treves wanted to help. He gave Merrick his card, but lost track of him. The police started clamping down on the sideshows, so Merrick was sent to Belgium to work in a sideshow there.
But when Belgian police also clamped down Merrick was forced to make his way back to England. As he limped down Liverpool Street station, foul smelling and misshapen, a crowd gathered simply to watch him. Soon, Dr Treves found him, took him to hospital, and began a newspaper appeal for funds to help. The response was very warm, and soon Merrick was able to have his own house on the hospital grounds with permission to live there permanently.
The breakthrough moment
Treves’ care marked a real turning point for Merrick. At first Merrick would act like a frightened child and hide when anyone came into his room, but over time he began to engage some in conversation. Dr Treves discovered that John Merrick was in fact highly intelligent and sought to nurture his growth. All his life Merrick had known only fear and rejection from women. They had literally run from him. So Dr Treves asked an attractive widow he knew if she could come into Merrick’s room, smile at him and shake his hand. When she did Merrick broke down into a ball of tears, later telling Treves that she was the first woman in his life apart from his mother to have showed him kindness.
That was a breakthrough moment for John. In the coming years more and more people, women included, would meet him and show him kindness. He began meeting countesses and duchesses. He even had many visits and letters from the Princess of Wales, forming a friendship with her. Throughout this time Dr Treves reports Merrick changed dramatically. He began to develop some self-confidence, to spend time travelling in the country, to discuss poetry with another new friend, Sir Walter Steel.
John Merrick died in April 1890. His deformities had never allowed him to sleep lying down as most people do. He had to sleep in a sitting position, his head resting on his knees. He apparently tried one night to sleep lying down, to be more ‘normal’, and sadly dislocated his neck and died. Merrick’s story shows us the power of love and acceptance. Rejected all his life, treated as a ‘thing’, it was the loving welcome of others that liberated him to become all he could be. His life was made tragic not by his deformities but by the response people made to them.
You see, each person is worthwhile. God made us in his image. It’s not our decision to cast anyone aside.